modern day goddesses

I have been spending an extremely interesting time with my girls lately and i realized how strikingly powerful women really are. The image of the strong independent femme fatale once was just a superficial concept of Pepsi commercials but is now realized and actualized by everyday real women. This is evidenced by those groups of girls you see down the coffeeshop, unafraid to discuss objective and open-minded topics like SEX, for example.

Yes, people, I said it! SEX! And there is nothing objectively wrong with it. And FYI, there's a big difference between getting in touch with your sexuality and sexual promiscuity. These girls happen to be brave and mature enough to discuss sexuality in public places. That's all.

As for leisure these girls also prefer shopping at the malls rather than lying next to the doormat at home. On average weekend nights, while plain Jane is reading romance pocketbooks and fantasizing about her wedding day, these fun-loving girls rock the dancefloor!!! You know you see them there in tha club dancin in groups, shakin their booties...
They're the ones who make you wonder how come they don't have to be lesbians to know how to have so much fun with each other.

They don't bore you. In fact they constantly amaze you in relishing the thought that they might just beat you in Playstation 2. Or that they're just so competitively versatile that you could wow your work colleagues when you invite these girls at your company's next cocktail party. These energetic and flexible girls can go as far as sharing girltalk with all your 9 sisters down to camping with your rough-ridin hippie buddies at the Himalayas mountains.

These girls are real, and although they could get along with Saddam Hussein if they want to these girls are masters of their own lives as well. They are not ashamed to speak their minds nor are hesitant to leave abusive, unhealthy relationships. They are the ones who enroll in culinary class not to impress you or their mothers-in-law but simply because they find interest in learning a new skill!

They are not all about seriousness and properness, mind you. They also have their wild sides . Many times they may just be carefree and silly and adventurous and playful all for the sake of joyfulness. So if you find these attributes intimidating for a girl then you don't deserve to understand them. Instead, Go get yourself a nun!!!
And although they may seem like the happiest people in the planet remember that they have feelings too. The thing is that you don't hear them running around town chanting about their emotions because they know pretty well how to handle their feelings.

If you have them into your lives you'll realize that they're not there to change you. Nor give you ransom notes on relationship needs and demands because they are very secure about themselves already. It is also a waste of time for them to bombard you with lectures on commitment, loyalty and any of those Jerry Mcguirre crap. They believe that it is already a non-verbal assumption that both parties must be sensitive about these things right from the beginning.
By the way, do not underestimate their massive abilities to understand by lying to them.

That's a big no-no!

These girls are strong and smart and can pretty much handle any truths. And besides, who're you
kiddin? They have superhuman powers from Motha Nature. It's called INTUITION!

And if by some very unfortunate freek instance that you happen to break their hearts, take them for granted and hurt them it is unadvisable to expect that they would jump off the Empire State building. Trust me, it's not gonna happen! They would probably just smile at you the next time you see them. They find no value in vengeance because they know that your sins are your own punishments.

They are and will forever be the ones who stand out. The girls whom you measure everyone against but somehow nothing even comes close to what they really are to you. Things will never be the same without them. The malls, the coffeehshops, the bars, cocktail parties, campings or even the simplest things like your own bed are just never the same.

So if one day luck is on your side and you get the privilege of having them back into your lives cherish them! Treat them the way they truly deserve. Afterall, they're the modern day goddesses. *wink*


--karla-- ~janie~beech~frex~fe~ai~ina~nana~

who stole my magic???

I just finished reading this marvelous book from Jenny Manuel and it's amazing how women can actually view breaking up in a totally different perspective. Sure breaking up is hard....being dumped is dreadful! However, in some cases what's even more difficult is to wake up one morning and find yourself in a relationship used to be that BIG and sweet and serious to feel no longer the same. You know it can’t be happening.

You try to think things over. Refresh your mind of memories of your great love. Read on his letters. Stare at your pictures. Watch your funny videos when surprisingly after having been doing all these things, there's still no trace of magic comin back.

You think about the years you've been together, this kind of relationship and strong bond you've already established with his family, the things he's done for you, the sacrifices you've made in the past just to make things work. And yet there still no sign of magic comin back.

You narrow down to conclusions like -- maybe it's just the distance and communication crisis that had triggered the sudden depletion of this magic potion as we may call it. Perhaps, all you need now is a lil space and time (although in my case, I've more than enough of it). You venture to some never never land to find yourself searching for answers and yet all you can ever come up with is nothing. NADA!

Now the realization finally dawns on you-- that things had been different. And you know soon enough life with him and commitments will begin to tear away. There's just no point of bringing back something that no longer exists.

The magic had just worn off.

T’was a fairly fine evening...I was listening to an upbeat house music when he called up totally unexpected. I knew that was it. I've had it in mind and in my heart that it's no longer in the 'works' for us but I’ve just been chickening out the past months. This time, before things get even more complicated – I had to do the deed. Somehow I felt like he had an inkling of what's gonna happen as there were unusual awkward moments and long silent pauses. “Gurl speak up before the call cuts off!” I told myself.

I gathered all the strength I could ever muster given the fact that I’m the weakest person you'd ever know when it comes to things like this. But there seems to be a big lump stuck between my throat I couldn’t speak up. It's strange that in the middle of chaos, you still managed to think about the most appropriate words. Phrases. Sentences that'll imply your intentions yet would sound the least hurtful.

Sadly there's none.

No. I’d rather not spill the details as it may cause deadly goose bumps to the reader. The point is—I…drama queen (ok I couldn’t think of the most politically correct word) “dumped” him. Right there and then.

They say being dumped is tragic. True. But dumping someone because you know for sure that things are not and will never be the same is even worse. Especially if you know that both of you have had so much history goin.

People would start asking questions. Why??? It’s retarded. Really!

Asking someone to explain why they don't love you no more is like trying to explain the concept of world wide web to an ant. In such same way that words could not fully explain why you love someone, they will always come up short when trying to explain why you don't.

Feelings fade. And for reasons not instantly comprehensible relationships end.

It is strange indeed. Although I initiated the break up, the aftermath wasn't easy at all. I had to swallow in major changes and accept the fact which I thought would be impossible way back - that I’m actually on my own now. It was torment knowing that you've made the most important person in the past 4 years of life feeling miserable because of your change of heart. Feelings you didn’t mean to lose but lost it anyway…

This may sound really cheesy but even if your love is not reciprocated, the fact that we can love and be loved is a gift in itself. Joy, pain, pleasure, misery- they all come in one package. Important thing is that we don’t become bitter. Instead see life in a totally new light.

You'll see-- love is never sought in the people around you. The magic simply lives inside of you. Y