I am not the kick-ass chick you see in cinemas on one of those girl power action flicks. but i do believe that we all have the capacity to be the lead stars of our own lives. regardless of gender... I've always been aware that its not easy for a girl to have it her way when it comes to matters of the heart. See, in filipino culture especially.. girls are meant to just sit around and wait for guys to like them enough to pursue them and eventually be their boyfriends. You're just lucky if you get spotted by someone you like back.
I just dont think thats fair!
How come a guy gets to choose who to pursue and a girl's option are down to those only who pursue them? What if none of them is really her type?
Worse thing about it is, even if a girl says no a million times, guys just never give up until her ever so fragile weak lil heart finally says "yes". Let's give it a shot.
Girls never get the chance to try and win the hearts of those they like. It's like they just have to pick whatever it is that's been set in the table for them.
In the modern world of today, a girl must know how to play fair. But then of course, expect the worse when tables are turned. To make a man fall for you, you have to be as tough. Be willing to put up with anything. Heartaches, rejection (in-your-face rejections), disappointments, jealousy and endless roller coaster ride of emotions that might really lead you hurting..
In my quest for true love, i have endured all possible pain one single tough ass chick wannabee could possibly experience thinking that all my sacrifices shall reap rewards of a happily ever after finale with the prince charming i've always loved in the beginning.
of course i dont always turn up victorious. In this battle you must know when to fight and when to stop. In the end it's always something you learn so much from.
I am not a big fan of destiny, serendipity, fate, soulmates or any of the life-is-a-one-big-masterplan crap where you shall only meet the one that's truly meant for you.
Soulmates are true but you dont expect them to fall from the heavens straight right down to you with a tag saying "I AM YOUR SOULMATE" plastered on their foreheads.
Yes, you might bump into them in the meat section of the grocery dept. or be reachin out for the same hardbound cover in National Bookstore. But they'll remain strangers unless you make "something" happen. You have to take control. Why else did God give us hearts to feel and brains to think with it if we dont put it in good use?
We can come up with ways to get whatever it is our heart desires, just like men do!
Sure the universe can conspire with the cosmos and the stars in gettin you and your soulmate into one place. But in real life, it rarely happens.
We dont live a staged play with scripts and directions. Life's a mess. you decide. you choose. you struggle. You dont wake up each morning to watch your life happen before you. Dalagang filipinas' traditional ways of batting thy eyelashes by the window hopeful for a potential kasintahan to pass by and start chopping woods and fetching water for em -- has totally gotten out of trend. I'm not saying that women should attack their man like a prey if they see em. I just think there's nothing wrong in trying to win their hearts through.. say..a decent catchy conversation or a few toss your hair that-a-way, by bringin them their favorite food, givin them compliments. Any subtle but to kill moves that can leave em starin in blank space thinkin about you. And when the time is right, be not afraid to express your feelings.
It's nice to think that Love comes in mysterious ways but you wouldnt wanna think that way after you reach 30 something old, would yah?
If you see the man of your dreams hangin around the corner, it wouldnt hurt to show him that you are actually interested nd worth hell a lot of his time! Who knows? You might have chanced upon your soulmate. It wouldnt be bad to give fate a lil hand!
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